Why I fell in love with Positive Psychology

My own journey

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Positive psychology came into my life not when I was battling a lot of negativity or experiencing a low phase. Actually, on paper, everything seemed great. There was a happy and healthy (!) family, satisfying work-life balance, time, and space for myself. While there was a lot to be grateful for, I didn’t experience it that way. I wasn’t feeling engaged with my life.

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When I did my first course on positive psychology, I just wanted to learn something new, to be inspired by new ways of thinking, and to understand our lives from a different angle. I felt like my life was just looping, every day, and everything was so repetitive. And I understand that’s just life with kids and a 9-5. I was missing the why in my life, the intention behind my choices.

Before I dove deep into positive psychology, I honestly assumed it wasn’t as powerful as it might seem. I thought it mostly just added a bit of gratefulness to your day-to-day, and there you have it. Or that it leaned toward toxic positivity. I’ve always been a fan of self-help, but often it feels like you’re just following other people’s advice, what worked for them, instead of looking internally for what truly works for you.

I realized that positive psychology is not even close to pretending everything is okay. It’s about asking ourselves: What makes my life worth living? What makes my heart jump? What do I need? As I’ve said before, I’m a simple girl, and the tools positive psychology offers are easy yet effective. Simple acts like naming the things you’re grateful for at the end of the day—try it for five days straight. You’ll start to see that there’s more happiness in the day than you realized. Positive psychology simplified my life, in a good way. I move through life with simple, quiet, yet deeply nurturing intentions.

There’s a lot on our plates as mothers and as women. It’s a lot, it’s giving real survival vibes. And for the longest time, I only looked at what I needed to improve, what could be better, solely focusing on self-improvement. But with positive psychology, I found ways to look at myself and celebrate my strengths, not just manage my weaknesses. Life gets busy, and we are more distracted than ever. It’s important to stay close to yourself and live with intention. To create meaning. And the best part? You don’t need anyone else for that.

Tell me, or rather, speak to yourself:

If your well-being could speak, what would she ask you to nurture today?

Love,

Romy